So my parents and I went out to Boston to have lunch at Jin Asian Cuisine in Saugus on Route 1. This place is slightly out of control! It was built less than 10 years ago, and it's a monstrosity. It's about 15 minutes north of downtown Boston.
My parents are a bit excited about its prospects, but I was not feeling it at all.
1. It was soooo over the top. While it is lovely, the decor was just too "oriental" for me. I honestly felt like I would need to hit a gong everytime a guest walked in.
2. I was totally offended by the wedding coordinator. She was a really nice white lady, but she kept referring to white people as "Americans" and my family and friends as "Chinese." For example, she said things like "well, you should think about having a cocktail/hors d'oevres hour for your American guests since you know how your Chinese guests will be at least an hour late. And you'll need extra alcohol for your American guests since Chinese people don't really drink."
It was just annoying to the point where I actually stopped her at one point and said to her, "my family, we're American too. So if you mean white people, then say white people." Plus, how does she know that my friends are all either Chinese or white. And how does she know that my non-white friends don't drink? Shooooot, Koreans - they can DRINK! And I've got some Filipino, Latino, Black, South Asian, and Vietnamese friends than can drink people under the table. Heck, I have Chinese American friends who can drink like no other.
It was a nice facility, and the food is good, but I don't know if I could handle a wedding coordinator who would stereotype me at every turn. I don't think I could contract there, based on the over the top decor and the difficulties I would have working with the wedding coordinator there. I don't know, am I being too picky?
We then went to Chinatown to check out Hei La Moon which is very conveniently located on the outskirt of C'town with a parking garage above it.
The decor is totally modern and not "chinky" or "oriental" like at Jin. It had nice wood panel walls, and I could tell that when it first opened about 3 years ago it was a very nice place. Now, they haven't had their carpet cleaned probably in 3 years and things are really dirty. The bathroom was nasty. And there were some broken windows. To top it all off, the manager of the restaurant refused to talk to us because we haven't set a date yet. GRRRRRR.
So now I'm back to square one. New York? Boston? San Francisco? My parents are saying that they don't care as long as I'm happy, but I know that's BS. They're trying to be nice and all, but they give these passive aggressive guilt trips. For example, my dad says to me, "you know if you have it in San Francisco, I'm sure it'll be really nice, but you know none of our relatives in Connecticutt and Mass will go. Why would they go out just for your wedding?" It's frustrating me to no END! I'd rather they just be up front with me and tell me that they prefer Boston, because.... Instead, I'm left feeling awful.
So, maybe New York would be best after all, since the restaurants in Queens were actually really nice and clean. I had dinner with my cousin who just got married, and I straight asked her "if it was in SF, would you go?" She was like "we'd try our best." I asked, "if it was in NY would you go?" She said, "it would be easier."
So there you have it. SF is hard, and NY is easier. So maybe I'll be making S happy after all and we do everything in NYC.
My head is spinning! Do people set a date first and then a location? Or do they do location first then date? Or do they do both at the same time??